AHHHHHH!!! Christmas break is fast approaching, and I am ecstatic. For the past 3 and a half months my life has revolved around school. My mind has been jammed with thoughts of assignments and deadlines. I have been surviving on caffeine and sugar, and have severely missed my family and friends.
However, the past couple of months have been very rewarding too. As I already stated in an earlier post, I met and made friends with numerous amazing people, and I have been challenged both mentally and physically (sleep, stress, etc.).
What I have learned over the past couple of months is that I really am capable of whatever I put my mind to. It's a really great thing to realize.
But besides that realization, I am immensely looking forward to a little break. I long for sleep and freetime, and my neighbourhood YMCA misses me.
So here is a brief list of some of the things that I will be doing with my newfound freedom come December 12th:
-Sleeping, oh how I missed you..
-Going out for dinners/drinks/movies/bowling/anything not school related
-Watching tv...ok...I still did that, but I had to forgo my usual tv marathons!
-Eating lunch at home
-Eating dinner at home
-Drinking less coffee/pop/anything to keep me awake
-Not stressing about whether my story, screenplay, interview, fact sheet, memo, tv show, brochure, research assignment, talk show, restaurant review, radio read, tv ad, print ad, radio ad, oral presentation, etc., etc. is good enough to be handed in.
-Taking baths...just me? Okay.
-Listening to music. It distracts me when I'm doing schoolwork.
-Hanging out with my sister. I miss her so much.
-Hanging out with my friends. They miss me so much.
-Going shopping for more than an hour at a time.
-Going to the gym! I am brutally out of shape.
And for all the things that I couldn't do this semester, I will be doing those too!
Christmas break....I love you.
-Christa
Monday, December 7, 2009
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Ever since the Tiger Woods fiasco I have had friends and family ask me why I think that men cheat. I am definitely not an expert on men, nor on the reasons why they cheat. Therefore, I have "borrowed" this explanation from Cosmo, and it seems to make sense to me.
The bottom line is that men rarely cheat simply because of their significant other. The line "it's not you, it's me" really does apply to this specific situation. That is, of course, unless you're not holding up your end of the bargain in the bedroom, but that's another issue entirely!
So ladies if this ever happens to you *fingers crossed that it doesn't* don't beat yourselves up about it. Drop him where you found him, dust yourself off and move on! He obviously just wasn't worth your fabulousness! ;)
When we heard the rumors that Tiger Woods had an affair, it was hard not to wonder if he'd lost his mind. What reason could there be for him to risk losing his wife, the smoking-hot former model Elin Nordegren? Although we don't know the behind-the-scenes details of their marriage, infidelity experts say it's not surprising that guys like Tiger indulge in sideline action. As it turns out, the reasons guys are unfaithful are rarely about the sex itself, but because cheating fuels a deep psychological need. "Several factors make some men more likely to stray, even if they are dating or married to a beautiful woman," says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.
The first factor at work is the man's level of success. Guys in high-profile, powerful positions — such as celebrities, athletes, business executives, and politicians — often have a sense of superiority and entitlement. "These guys have achieved a certain status, and bedding several attractive women further reinforces it in their mind," says Lusterman. Moreover, these men are constantly on the road, away from their girlfriends and wives. At the same time, their prominence attracts a slew of hot chicks who offer no-strings-attached sex. "They may have a wonderful partner waiting at home, but the situation they're in, coupled with their role of pursuer, makes it that much easier to cheat," adds Lusterman.
But celebs aren't the only snakes. Plenty of regular guys are unfaithful too, especially when their backgrounds condone it. Many two-timers come from chauvinistic cultures or families where their fathers cheated. “There are internal blueprints (created by watching our parents) that make cheating more of an option for some guys,” according to Dr. Debbie Magids, author of All the Good Ones Aren’t Taken. Also, men who were ignored as children often develop deep trust issues, which can make long-term relationships really difficult. “Chronic cheating is rooted in an emotional emptiness that can give people the need to feel constantly desired,” she says.
Then there are guys whose bad behavior is actually a mental disorder. Sex addicts, for example, are so enslaved to the rush of sexual activity that they have affairs, visit prostitutes, and consume porn. "Ironically, many of them have happy relationships and feel guilty for cheating, but they can't stop," says Lusterman. Someone with narcissistic personality disorder, on the other hand, can't resist the temptation because he is obsessed with being adored.
Guys who have such extreme compulsions need psychiatric help. But just because a guy fits some of the other categories doesn't mean he'll automatically cheat. "It's important to pay attention to the warning signs, but whether a man will stray or not boils down to his level of honesty within the relationship and his loyalty to you," says Lusterman.
Information taken from www.cosmopolitan.com
I hope this helps!!
The bottom line is that men rarely cheat simply because of their significant other. The line "it's not you, it's me" really does apply to this specific situation. That is, of course, unless you're not holding up your end of the bargain in the bedroom, but that's another issue entirely!
So ladies if this ever happens to you *fingers crossed that it doesn't* don't beat yourselves up about it. Drop him where you found him, dust yourself off and move on! He obviously just wasn't worth your fabulousness! ;)
When we heard the rumors that Tiger Woods had an affair, it was hard not to wonder if he'd lost his mind. What reason could there be for him to risk losing his wife, the smoking-hot former model Elin Nordegren? Although we don't know the behind-the-scenes details of their marriage, infidelity experts say it's not surprising that guys like Tiger indulge in sideline action. As it turns out, the reasons guys are unfaithful are rarely about the sex itself, but because cheating fuels a deep psychological need. "Several factors make some men more likely to stray, even if they are dating or married to a beautiful woman," says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide.
The first factor at work is the man's level of success. Guys in high-profile, powerful positions — such as celebrities, athletes, business executives, and politicians — often have a sense of superiority and entitlement. "These guys have achieved a certain status, and bedding several attractive women further reinforces it in their mind," says Lusterman. Moreover, these men are constantly on the road, away from their girlfriends and wives. At the same time, their prominence attracts a slew of hot chicks who offer no-strings-attached sex. "They may have a wonderful partner waiting at home, but the situation they're in, coupled with their role of pursuer, makes it that much easier to cheat," adds Lusterman.
But celebs aren't the only snakes. Plenty of regular guys are unfaithful too, especially when their backgrounds condone it. Many two-timers come from chauvinistic cultures or families where their fathers cheated. “There are internal blueprints (created by watching our parents) that make cheating more of an option for some guys,” according to Dr. Debbie Magids, author of All the Good Ones Aren’t Taken. Also, men who were ignored as children often develop deep trust issues, which can make long-term relationships really difficult. “Chronic cheating is rooted in an emotional emptiness that can give people the need to feel constantly desired,” she says.
Then there are guys whose bad behavior is actually a mental disorder. Sex addicts, for example, are so enslaved to the rush of sexual activity that they have affairs, visit prostitutes, and consume porn. "Ironically, many of them have happy relationships and feel guilty for cheating, but they can't stop," says Lusterman. Someone with narcissistic personality disorder, on the other hand, can't resist the temptation because he is obsessed with being adored.
Guys who have such extreme compulsions need psychiatric help. But just because a guy fits some of the other categories doesn't mean he'll automatically cheat. "It's important to pay attention to the warning signs, but whether a man will stray or not boils down to his level of honesty within the relationship and his loyalty to you," says Lusterman.
Information taken from www.cosmopolitan.com
I hope this helps!!
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